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HALLOWEEN CANDY: TRICK OR TREAT? –

Halloween candy. Is it a trick or a treat? Now the question is not a trick question, but I think it’s a very interesting that this is the phrase that the kids use. Is this a trick or is this a treat? How do you feel about Halloween candy? How do you feel about it being, you know, right there when you walk in any grocery store, right now. How do you feel about purchasing it and having it in your house? If any of those things, invoke discomfort, fear, concern that you’re going to consume great quantities. This episode is going to be helpful.

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FULL TRANSCRIPT

Hey ladies, welcome to episode 104 Halloween candy trick or treat? I’m excited to dive into this one. Let’s go. Welcome to the health life and more for women podcast. My name is Jennifer D’Amato a certified, intuitive eating counselor, coach mom of four, lover of all things pink, and I want you to live your best health and your best. I believe the way we can all do that is by finally walking away from diet culture, by relearning what your body needs, reconnecting with your body’s biological signals and redefining what health is on your terms. This show will shed some light on sneaky ways diet culture has infiltrated your thoughts, your family, and your wellbeing. My heart is that no matter the episode, you walk away feeling informed, inspired and encouraged. Let’s go. 

All right, did you already answer the question? Was it a trick or a treat? Now the question is not a trick question, but I think it’s a very interesting that this is the phrase that the kids use. Is this a trick or is this a treat? How do you feel about Halloween candy? How do you feel about it being, you know, right there when you walk in any grocery store, right now. How do you feel about purchasing it and having it in your house? If any of those things, invoke discomfort, fear, concern that you’re going to consume great quantities. This episode is going to be helpful.

Can I just be really honest and tell you? I used to be really scared of Halloween candy. I know irrational fear, 1 0 1 right here. But I was so concerned about having it in my presence because every single time that we had it in the house, I felt like I couldn’t stop eating. I felt like if I start eating this, I’m not going to stop. I would eat things. I didn’t even, like, there are some really bad chocolate bars and candy out there. I mean, ewww, and I’m not really a candy girl, but I do like certain chocolate goodness. I am not a super sweet person. Definitely more of a savory and a salty, but there’s certain chocolates, especially Reese’s peanut butter cups and oh my goodness peanut M and M’s. Yes, please. That I really enjoy. But in the midst of disordered eating in the midst of dieting, if I was around any candy chocolates of any kind, I would eat whatever it was. And I would eat in a quantity that made me pretty much sick. 

You know, that feeling like I’m not really sure how many I have. But whatever I had, I feel ill now. So of course, I’m going to be scared. I’m going to have this, what seems like an irrational fear, to have Halloween candy around. Now I have four daughters. We take them out in the neighborhoods we’ve lived in. Oh my goodness. They, when they were younger, the neighbors just love to seeing them. It feels a little different again this year, and I don’t have that many going out. I’m actually on my last kiddo going door to door to the neighbors because around 12 years old, 13 years old, they kind of stop. It’s just what we’ve done. They help hand out candy. They have a youth fall Fest they go to et cetera, et cetera, but I always buy it to hand out and in the years I was completely immersed in dieting, I had four kids with four pumpkin’s filled to the brim. 

That was even one neighborhood we lived in that gave out full size candy bars. Every house gave out full sized candy bars. Y’all it was bonkers. And I felt out of control. I felt scared. I felt overwhelmed. Why, why would I feel this way? Well, I’m going to give you the key right now.

If you’re dieting, if you’re thinking about dieting, if you think you need to diet, meaning I need to lose weight, let’s just call it what it is. You’re going to have this same irrational fear because you believe I cannot have these foods. These foods are off limits. These foods need to be absolutely restricted. These foods are going to make me fat. So don’t eat them. This will ultimately lead to you consuming them and like me consuming them in quantities that make you possibly feel sick to your stomach. So what do you do? What do you do to help resolve this problem? Well, first, I want to point you back to an episode I recorded old about a year ago, episode 65.

It’s titled how I know you are not addicted to sugar because how often have you said or heard people say, oh, I’m addicted to sugar. No, you’re not. You’re absolutely not. And I explain why I know that you are not in that episode, so I don’t want to rehash all of that, but I want to remind you that restriction restriction, not just restricting candy chocolates, all of that, but restriction of any kind will lead to over consumption. This is how your brain works. This is the study I shared with him the context of that episode, go back, give it a listen. I’ll even, I’ll put it in the show notes just to link it and make it really easy if you’ve never listened to that episode. But here we are in real time. 

Here we are the week of Halloween going trick or treating if you have kids. Or if you don’t and you’re buying the candy to hand out and you’re having that fear of having it in your house or the stress and overwhelm, every time you walk in the grocery store, I want you to listen right here. Allow yourself to enjoy the Halloween candy you enjoy. Don’t restrict. Now I’m going to tell you don’t restrict on any foods. Don’t restrict on anything that you’re eating, but right now, for this week, I want you to actually tell yourself I can have whatever Halloween candy I want. I love telling my clients to remind themselves you are a grown woman. You can make whatever decision you want. You are as well. You are a grown woman who can decide I can have Reese’s peanut butter cups today, and I can have some peanut M and M’s tomorrow.

Enjoy the ones you enjoy. What I’m saying is allow the candy. If the immediate fear, when I say that, when I tell you enjoy the Halloween candy you enjoy is I’m going to eat it all. Jen, I can’t have any because I’m going to consume it all. I want you to get this, the restricting of it will backfire. You will find yourself going into the kids’ Halloween candy when they’ve gone to bed. You’ll find yourself eating more than you would if you just allowed yourself to enjoy what you want right now. And you know what? Take it a next step here. When you enjoy it, really enjoy it. People ask me all the time, you know, to describe a good, intuitive eater. Like what does it look like? And I always give the example of a toddler hallways. I always paint that picture of that kiddo when they’re eating foods, they enjoy in how they wear it. They enjoy it so much, literally on their face. Now I’m not suggesting you know, eat like a complete slob and have the chocolate all over your face or whatever it is that you’re enjoying, if you do it fine.

But the principle here is that you really find pleasure and satisfaction in what you’re eating. And that includes the Halloween candy. Stop demonizing foods. I know that sounds like extreme, but that’s what’s happening. Maybe you’ve labeled these foods bad, unhealthy. I shouldn’t have these, all of these rules. I have to tell you that’s, what’s dictating how you feel when you do have the piece, the pieces. All of this can be changed when you have peace with food. All of this happens with each of my clients who really have pressed into the work of intuitive eating. It is beautiful. I myself am an example of this. I used to finish Halloween night thinking like I’m some sort of rock star, like badge of honor. I didn’t touch any Halloween candy. Look at me. I have willpower. I’m so disciplined. Until I found myself in the freezer where I had put the candy, taking it out frozen. Risking chipping a tooth, harming myself in some way, because I had restricted and I broke.

I, I knew it was there and it was like, it was haunting me. You know, it was really taking over my thoughts if I had just allowed it, what I wanted when I wanted it. What a difference. And I know the difference now I recently was sharing in an Instagram story, there’s a reel up there. If you want to go search for it, look for the picture of a glass pumpkin filled with peanut M and M’s, this is my house now. And that container stayed with M and M’s in it for weeks. There are six of us in this house. I am home like every day, all the time. And my four daughters are here everyday, all the time, they’re homeschooled. And yet some days nobody touches the pumpkin. Some days they literally go in and take one or two, I’m the same way.

There’s days I go and I don’t have them. And that is my ultimate favorite chocolate candy. I love it so much. And yet there’s days, I just don’t want it, but it’s available to me all the time. This is how I’m going into Halloween. This is all I go into every Halloween now. This is all going to every holiday season, every holiday season. I just want you to take a moment and just picture for yourself, if that was your way of living. I do believe this is possible for every single person. I even know when my clients come to me, they’re, they’re really not sure. You know, they are like, all right, I’m going to press into this work. I’m going to do it.

I’m going to really look at my thoughts. I’m going to work on these food rules. I want to make peace with food, but I’m still in the back of my mind just not sure. And yet all of them time and time again, prove that anyone at any season of life from ages and, you know, have clients in their forties to clients seventy. Yes. I have a client who right now is 70 years old pressing into this work. And she is a rock star. It’s possible for you too. And you don’t have to wait until you’re in your forties. It just happens to be when we finally say we’ve had enough, we, we get into our mid forties or fifties, sixties and beyond, and finally have enough.

What if, where you are right now, you said I’ve had enough of living like this? These diets don’t work. I’m sick of restricting. I’m sick of what this does, but what do I do? What do I do now? That’s when these women are coming to me in the I’m looking for what to do. I’ve been following somebody else’s rules, following someone else’s plan for me. And I don’t know what to do now. I don’t even know what to eat, how to eat when to eat. They’re consumed with all of these thoughts, swirling in their heads. They come to me and we literally sort them all out. We break them down and you know what they do. They throw the rules in the garbage that are harming them that are hurting them that are telling them they can’t have their freaking favorite piece of Halloween candy.

That’s what we’re doing. Now, you’ve heard me talk about it on here several times. You’ve heard me share about the power of intuitive eating of what happens to your life and how it gave me back my life. Well, I am here to invite you into that work. I’m here to tell you that you might not know what it all looks like, but I do. And I can help walk you through that. This can be the last time you ever stress about all the Halloween candy in the store. This is the last time you stress about the holiday season coming and food being around you in great quantities. This is it right here. I have very few openings left for one-on-one clients.

And those one-on-one clients who are with me right now, they get me through the holidays. They get to walk this journey with me by their side when those thoughts come up. That could be you. That could be you. I’m always honest that I couldn’t have walked this journey without the level of support that I did. I mean, not everyone I work with is coming out of obsessive health behaviors, orthorexia, but everyone does better with support. Someone who’s been there. Someone who knows the work that needs to be done to heal that relationship with food. So if you’ve listened to this and you’ve said, that’s it, that’s it. I want to enjoy the Halloween candy without guilt. I want to have peace with all foods. I want to go through the holiday season and no longer stress head into the show notes, wherever you’re listening to this podcast book a consult. Let’s have that first conversation. I actually do want to hear your struggles.

I want to hear what’s coming up for you. What that dieting history has done to you? What has it left you with? What are those thoughts that are consuming you? And then I want to do some vision work with you. What would you rather it be? I know you might not have a grasp of it yet, but I promise you, those dreams you have of being able to be around the Halloween candy are possible. Those dreams you have about not stressing about the holiday food are possible. Never having to diet ever again, the belief that your body needs to be manipulated is possible. Head into this show notes, book, a consult. Let’s talk. I want to help you create that life you’ve been longing for the one that you don’t see a lot of other people doing because you believe everybody else is on a diet. I’m here to tell you that’s just not true. That’s just not true. 

All right, I hope you enjoy whatever Halloween looks like for you. Maybe it’s a fall fest. Maybe it’s a what’s that trunk thing people do, right, you know, at churches or if you go door to door, if you just have kiddos come into your door, I hope that whatever it is for you, it is sweet and that it feels less like a trick and more like a treat. Happy Halloween, until next week. 

After that episode, you might be wondering what’s next. Well, don’t worry. I’ve got you. You can do a couple of things, right now. If you go into the show notes, wherever you’re listening to this podcast, I have links to my Instagram, my website, and you can get on my newsletter. I connect with you each and every week, so we can hang out on the podcast and in your inbox. If you just listened to this episode and you are ready to walk away from diet culture, but you’re not sure what the next steps are. Book a free consult with me. You can do that by heading into the show notes or going to www.healthcoach4life.com. I have a limited availability for one-on-one coaching, and if it’s for you, grab your spot now.

 

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