CONFESSIONS OF A 42 YEAR OLD –
It’s my birthday week and I thought it would be fun to do a turning 42 confessional right here on the podcast. These confessions are a fun way to get to know me, but I also want to share how they connect with my passion for helping women break free from diet culture. Join me for a fun episode and help celebrate my birthday week!
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Hey ladies, welcome to episode 103. I don’t know if you know this, but it’s my birthday week. I mean, October is my birthday month and I do celebrate all month long. If you follow me on Instagram, you already know that. As you can tell from the title of this episode this year, I’m turning 42. I thought it might be a fun idea to do a little confessional. Yeah, a confessional right here on the podcast. Let’s go. Welcome to the health life and more for women podcast. My name is Jennifer D’Amato a certified intuitive eating counselor, coach, mom of four, lover of all things pink, and I want you to live your best health and your best life. I believe the way we can all do that is by finally walking away from diet culture by relearning what your body needs, reconnecting with your body’s biological signals and redefining what health is on your terms. This show will shed some light on sneaky ways diet culture has infiltrated your thoughts, your family, and your wellbeing. My heart is that no matter the episode, you walk away feeling informed, inspired, and encouraged.
So, I guess my first confession is that I love getting older. I know it’s not common. I don’t hear it very often from anyone that they like getting older, but I do. I really believe that it stems from having always been the youngest. So in high school, I was voted with Corey Buckley as class babies. And it wasn’t because we were a bunch of whiny high schoolers it’s because we were the youngest. Our birthdays are in October and I graduated I was 17 years old. So was he and everybody else was 18. Yup, always been the youngest in the group. So I’ve really also always been drawn to hanging out with people who are older than me, which isn’t hard to do when you’re always the youngest one in the group, or at least I perceived it to be that way.
So I’ve always anticipated and looked forward to getting older. And I actually think it’s a gift now. I don’t stress about getting older. I didn’t stress about getting 40. In fact, two years ago, I was so excited to turn 40 that we threw a huge party. We had a DJ, tons of food, everybody dressed up in eighties, clothing. I mean, my parents even dressed up in eighties attire. It was the best party. And I was so excited to turn 40. I actually cannot wait to be like this little old lady. I’m saying like gray hair, because let me tell you it’s a lot of maintenance to take care of hair when it’s turning gray, but you’re not ready to go gray, but you could go gray, but not totally gray. Yup. Totally gray hair, little lady. Who’s so sassy and can say anything and nobody cares. These are my life goals. Okay first confession done.
All right, second confession at 42 years old is I unapologetically love watching TV. I do. I’m sure I could spend my time doing about 300 other things, but I don’t. When I want to rest, when I want to relax, when I need a mental break from all of the things I do, whether it’s, you know, coaching and counseling related, homeschool related, mom, wife, all things I want to break by watching TV. And if we’re doing confessions, which we are here today, I usually watch shows I’ve already watched more times than I can remember. So yeah, I’m putting on reruns of The Office of How I Met Your Mother, of Friends and many others, I will just rewatch them. Now, when I say rewatch, I’m not always like intently listening to every line, but it’s on.
I really do enjoy laughing. And most of that laughter if it’s not coming from my kids, it’s definitely coming from a good sitcom. So I unapologetically watch TV. It’s usually every day. Yep. If I need a break, if I’m done at the end of the day, I’m probably gonna put Netflix or Amazon or something on and relax. So second confession is yeah I watch TV. I’m just not that evolved to say, you know, I read all the time and my house just has music playing in this, you know, sense of peace and calm and I just sit and meditate on life’s biggest questions. No, no I’m freaking laughing at something ridiculous Michael Scott said for the fifth time.
All right, if you’re still here listening on my confessions of a 42 year old, I appreciate you because you might be wondering, what does this have to do with your work? What does this have to do with intuitive eating and body image and all of that? Like, why are you doing confessions? It’s because when you no longer take up brain space and heart space with all of these thoughts about food and judging your body and what you ate or what you didn’t need and the “shoulds” and the “shouldn’ts”. When all of a sudden you have your life back, you can really live it. And if really living, it means you intuitively listen to what your rest looks like, and it’s watching The Office for the eighth time. Good for you. Intuitive eating has literally helped me firmly embrace getting older. My body is changing.
Can we just have a moment for how much our body changes as we get older, the diet industry and the beauty industry want you to change that. They want to convince you, there is a cream, there is a pill, there is a rub, there is something you should be doing to not age. Why? I want to age, because naturally that’s what our bodies do. I’m going to maybe have a wrinkle or two. They’re really just all in my eyes because I smile and laugh a lot. I’m going to have stretch marks. I have some age spots too. Listen, I did. Okay, confession three. I did the oil outside in the sun as a teenager. Yeah, I’m talking body oil. It smelled so good. I didn’t always use baby oil. Sometimes I was fancy and got that, you know, like tropical smelling oil, but that stuff is so bad. All I can picture is what we do to food. You know, when we want it to glisten and crisp the skin of that Turkey at Thanksgiving. Yeah, that’s what I was doing to my body. So. I have age spots. My face has said to me, several times you were out in the sun for awhile and you know what it reminds me of those days.
It reminds me of sitting on my parent’s back porch and sunning myself. I didn’t have a mortgage back then. I didn’t have four kids. I didn’t have a husband. Those were some good times. I love all the things I have now. We’re not confessing anything crazy like that. I love my whole life, but gosh, it’s nice to just be like, you know what? There was a time you lived without any responsibilities. I mean, I thought it was hard back then, but no responsibilities, but I did rub baby oil and tropical oil all over myself. So my body, yeah, it shows that sometimes. And what I’ve been able to do is embrace that this body is getting older and it’s okay. I’m so tired of these commercials that come on saying that your skin doesn’t need to age. Why not? My skin is 42 years old. It’s not 20 years old and it doesn’t need to look like 20 year-old skin. It needs to look like a 42 year old skin. And what if we just embraced that is a fact? That it’s not a bad thing. It’s actually a beautiful thing. With age comes wisdom. Isn’t that a saying? Okay, it might not be true these days, but I’m hoping for me it is.
All right, my last confession for this celebration of turning 42 this week, it’s a big one. Are you ready for it? I don’t have everything figured out. Ta-da! If you are significantly younger and you’re listening to this podcast, I might have just broken your heart. If you’re around my age, you might just be nodding along or laughing with me. If you’re older than me, you’re going and what’s your point? I think we do believe when we’re younger, we’re going to somehow figure it out. Whether it’s in life, business, parenting, relationships, whatever. And I actually don’t think it’s the point.
I don’t think we should be striving for trying to figure it all out because I think you’re going to set yourself up for failure. I’m okay that I don’t know the answer. I’m okay that I don’t always get it right. I’m okay that sometimes I fail and that’s a big one for me to confess, but there’s so much more freedom and peace when, you know, I don’t have to have it all figured out. If I want to find an answer, I know where to look. You know, my clients are so unique and so fascinating and they bring in their own story and they might bring something to the table that I’m like, huh? I really don’t know the answer for that, but I’m going to find out. I’m going to research. I’m going to read. Yes. I’m going to turn off TV and I’m going to do research. I’m going to dive into studies. I’m going to dive into the books that I have, the resources I have available to me, and I’m going to learn as much as I possibly can. That’s what I do, but I don’t have it all figured out and I’m not striving to have it all figured out.
I don’t know, maybe life would be boring if I had it all figured out. Don’t you think? Hm. So there you go, my confessions as a soon to be 42 year old. I hope this was something relatable, enjoyable, or in the least it was just very entertaining for you. Well, here’s to another year. Here’s to another trip around the sun. All right, ladies, until we meet again, next week. After listening to that, you might be thinking I don’t have anything figured out. And I definitely don’t have this intuitive eating thing figured out at all. I don’t know what to eat. I don’t know when to eat. I don’t know anything going on with my body’s signals of hunger and fullness.
Don’t worry. I got you. This is what I do. Go ahead, click into the show notes and apply for my one-on-one coaching. Yep. Head to www.healthcoach4life.com/apply. When you head to that link, you can read all about who my coaching is for how I’m going to work with you. And then you can apply to be one of my clients. If you have questions, don’t hesitate to reach out. My email is below in the show notes.